It’s VERY common for a host to think they should stay in grubby clothes while they’re getting ready in case they get splatters of homemade sauce on their new shirt or their favorite jeans. However, what if we put it this way instead? We’ve all been there when our friend shows up an hour early or the dinner burns and we are stuck feeling less than our best when guests arrive and we’re still not ready.
By getting ready first you are doing a few things:
Giving yourself freedom to take time with the preparation without having to run upstairs frantically when you hear the door bell ring because you’re not ready!
Giving yourself a confidence boost as you prepare! It’s true, we hear about it often but by preparing and feeling your best before you WILL feel more confident as you prepare!
By getting ready before you are taking a step to take care of you, so that you can be more present, ready, and as peace filled as possible before your gathering.
When should I get ready?
Well, it depends on what time your gathering starts and how much you have on your plate that day. The way I think about it is whenever I am shifting gears to prepare for my event, the first thing I do is…get dressed etc. There isn’t a cut and dry formula here, just a habit to set in place since the gathering follows the host. Keeping you feeling prepared, peace filled, and confident will help steer the event in that direction!
Worried about getting messy?
That’s fine, if it’s something you enjoy just do your hair and make up first so all you have to do is change your clothes! So maybe you need to touch up your make up, or sprits a bit more perfume to freshen up. I’d much rather that than miss greeting my guests at the door because I’m getting ready last minute!
Remember this is a process that takes time to unlearn and relearn, grace and space! We could all use a little more time at the table and a little less hustle. Getting ready first is just one of the small ways to do just that. 🌿
I was living in Thailand, longed for community, starting opening my door and filling my table. Now I’m living ‘charcuterie’ as a way of life and teaching what I learned about living intentionally everyday.
I was living in Thailand, longed for community, starting opening my door and filling my table. Now I’m living Gathering as a way of life and teaching what I have learned about living intentionally everyday.